Two friends fall out. What do we do about that?

Two friends fall out.
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They are not VERY close friends.
They are not old friends –one I know somewhat better than the other, but they are both relatively recent friends.
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I like them both. I would enjoy to sit down and converse with them both; have done so in the past; would like to do more.
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But –at this stage– neither friend do I know very well.
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Geographically we all three live fairly close to each other. To a certain degree our interests overlap, intertwine….
If the “falling out” persists, I would be unhappy about that….
but maybe I would just have to live with it.
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But –preferably not.
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I don’t know what the falling out was about –though I can make an “educated guess” about it. I have a “certain feeling about what might be involved”.
So, I will have to find out; hear what happened; hear both sides of the story….
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Will I take sides?
Should I take sides?
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Will I agree with one, disagree with the other?
Is it a question of differing values?
Is there a resolution?
Is the falling-out resolvable?
Or –is there a point of principle involved, one I/We should be inflexible about?
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What about all my other friends?
Will they take sides?
Will they influence me?
Should they?
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None of us is very good at this “resolution business”.
Not locally.
Not nationwide.
And not globally.
(We should be embarrassed by our failures…failures to forgive,
failures to resolve, failures to heal, failures to go the extra mile, even the extra yard…
Failures to make things better.
Failures to tell our own story.
Failures to listen to the stories of others.
Failures to even care….
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Resolution is hard. Egos get bruised. Wounds will need to be licked. There may be salt involved.
If I know anything about these things, both friends may feel a certain need to feel right.
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To feel right about feeling wronged. Justified.
Both may feel the fault lies with the other.
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What will I think about this –when I hear the facts.
(Presumably everybody agrees with that as an essential first stage.)
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Both may be obdurate….
We will see….
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[TO THE READER OF THIS POST:
You may or may not know my two friends.
Do you have any words of advice for them? For us?]


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